Cuddle Puddle Club : Our Agreements

Every Cuddle Puddle Club begins in circle where we talk through the Cuddle Puddle Club Agreements.

In addition to the Cuddle Puddle Club Manifesto, these form the foundation of how we agree to show up and respect and treat each other so that we can co-create as much safety for everyone present as possible.

1 : We keep the circle sacred.

What happens at Cuddle Puddle Club stays at Cuddle Puddle Club. I do not share names or stories about anyone present outside of this space. I also do not solicit further connection with anyone outside of the cuddle tonight.

2 : We arrive as we are.

No performance. No pressure to be more or less than what or how I am tonight. I am welcome here completely and exactly as I am, all of me.

3 : We arrived sober, and stay sober.

I choose to co-create an intentionally conscious space. I meet everyone here with a clear mind, clean body, and open heart.

4 : We co-create an innocent, non-sexual space.

I choose to co-create this space for platonic intimacy, nervous system nourishment, and genuine human connection. I will remain clothed throughout the evening. I will not touch another's sacral / hip area, or a woman's chest area.

5 : We hold each other's humanity with respect.

I honour all genders, sexualities, bodies, religions, races and expressions of humanity without assumption or judgment. I will not shame another for being human.

6 : We communicate our desires clearly.

I speak up for what I desire, and what I don't. I check in with the other. I practice eye contact when making requests, or offerings, or expressing a boundary to another.

7 : We honour consent - always.

I ask before I touch. I receive a no with grace, thanking the other for honouring themselves. I offer a yes enthusiastically through eye-contact, and with my voice, a high five or clasp of the hand. I offer an outstretched hand or gentle no if I I do not desire, and if I receive one it is always respected without question.

8 : We take care of ourselves.

If at any point I need space, air, quiet, or to simply sit on the edge of the cuddle for a moment - I give myself permission to do so and I act on it.

9 : We ask for support.

If something feels off or I need support, I will reach out to the facilitator, or someone else in the room that I feel comfortable with.

10 : We do not photograph or record.

I have made sure that my phone is on silent and packed away. I will not take any photos.